Natural hair is fierce, cool and fabulous. It’s sexy and you know it yet when I pumped up the volume on my fro last week some guy said I looked like the dude from LMFAO. What?? You would think that with this whole natural hair movement and natural hair beauty queens like Solange Knowles or Jill Scott people would have more comparison material than a guy’s hair. That remark made me so self conscious even though I received tons of compliments before that. I know it might seem a little bit exaggerated but hear me out.
A lot of ladies scream that they’re nappy and happy but I hate the word. I grew up with a father dissing my hair and saying it was sooooo nappy. And it was not in a cute, ‘you-look-so-good-with-your-hair-kind-of-way’. Growing up I always thought my hair was ugly, ‘old’ (as Capeverdeans like to call natural hair ‘old’) and difficult to manage or comb. In an early attempt to relax my hair the comb my mum used even broke so that was not good for my hair self esteem at all
But things have changed and I’m grateful for Chris Rock’s ‘Good Hair’ documentary at it opened my eyes to the craziness of putting crack on my hair. What is the price of beauty anyway? Running the risk of becoming blind, burned or bald?
Seeing inspiring natural hair vloggers such as Taren Guy and Naptural85 also proved that natural hair IS beautiful because I think both ladies look gorgeous, so how can anyone say that they’re anything but beautiful simply because the texture of their hair is different?
Even though I fully embrace and love my hair that comment made me aware that there is still some insecurity left there. When I told my sister’s friend about this comment she laughed and agreed with what he said. As I was telling my sad ‘my dad thought my hair was ugly’ story she said that my hair is not ugly. When she said that I realized that I took the LMFAO hair comment so personal that I twisted it into a ‘your hair is ugly’ comment. He didn’t say that but that’s what I heard. That’s what insecurity does people, it makes you hear things people didn’t even say!
Natural Hair Boom
Last year I noticed a lot of women went natural and I’m happy to see this evolution. Even though I miss feeling like I’m the only one a tiny bit, natural hair is not only beautiful it’s also a healthy choice for many reasons. And it’s not just for us, but also for future generations. What happened with the happy fros from the 70s? Did those ladies relax their hair? Kids nowadays will grow up with a healthy hair self esteem with no pressure or need to relax their hair (or put a weave in it) in order to feel beautiful and accepted and that makes me so happy!
My sister has fine, curly hair and always being compared to her hair was not only frustrating it made me feel ugly. If all types of hair would have been celebrated I would have never relaxed probably as I truly believed that my hair made me ugly.
Natural hair is creating a new beauty standard. Whereas weaves and relaxed hair was the norm I’m sure that this will change and natural hair will not only be celebrated but also accepted by all generations and in all social classes. And if we become the majority nobody can tell us that natural hair is LMFAO hair because there will be too many examples to think of
What do you think of the natural hair movement?