Last week a lot of you celebrated Thanksgiving, a festivity that is centered around gratitude and brings people together in a beautiful way. I could have posted last week about this but I intentionally wanted to wait. Why? Because gratitude isn’t something that should only be celebrated around Thanksgiving but every single day of the year. Gratitude makes us appreciate what we have, it brings us joy and turns us into a point of attraction for everything we desire.
Often times we trick ourselves thinking that if we get that job, relationship, more money or whatever that our lives will change radically and that we will finally be happy. But we couldn’t be further from the truth. Once we get that job, relationship or money our joy will be short lived and that sense of happiness will elude us…again. Thinking we need something else to be happier and more in peace now is a lie because once we get there we will need something else to satisfy the void we feel inside. That’s because that void cannot be filled with something out there, it can only be filled with our love, joy and gratitude.
The void inside us propels us into a never ending quest. A quest for the next goal that will finally help us feel happy, peaceful and loved. What we often times don’t realize is that reaching the goal won’t make you feel happy, peaceful and loved. It’s how we feel BEFORE we even get there. Do you feel peaceful, happy and loved just thinking of your goal? Good! Keep doing that as it will generate more of what you’re feeling at the current moment. But if the contrary is your reality and that the thought of getting what your heart desires makes you doubt if you even will succeed or fearful, getting what you want won’t make it stop. It will actually make it worse.
Gratitude helps us be happy with what we have right now and from that place become a point of attraction for everything that will make that happiness grow. So what can you do today to help you feel more grateful right now? I listed 5 easy steps to help you feel more gratitude below
1. Write down what you’re grateful for every day
The act of writing down what you’re grateful for makes you become aware of everything that is good in your life right now. It also creates a filter through which you look at your life and make you see more things that you could be grateful for. Although ideally I would write it down in a notebook I simply forget it all the time so I looked up an app and found one that helps me write daily what I’m grateful for. It’s called ‘Secret of Happiness‘ and every morning and night it asks me what I’m grateful for. I’m on my smart phone all the time so this proved to be the best trick.
2. Let others know what you’re grateful for
Let your partner, family, friends & colleagues know what you appreciate in them and share it! Often times we realize when it’s too late we should have told them how much we love them, appreciate their attention & work, their help etc so why wait? Last year before new years eve I wrote an email to everybody that contributed to my special year in some way or another. I personalized every email telling them what I was grateful for, what I appreciated in them and that I hoped this year would prove to be equally special. I felt a bit silly to do this. I’m always a bit reluctant when it comes to giving praise or putting myself out there but I convinced myself that I was doing it for them and that how I looked in their eyes should not be a factor to consider. The response I got made my heart smile and I’m sure everybody appreciated my mail also. So go out there and make people smile! We need more happy people
3. Help others
Although realizing that you actually have a good life compared to the less fortunate is probably first thing you think about with helping others, this is not the reason why I listed this. By helping others we also help ourselves and realize our role in this world is to help one another. When I can help somebody else I feel blessed that I am in a position where I can make a difference in someone else’s life and that I helped improve their life in one way or another.
4. Speak words of gratitude
If you’re not aware you can easily slip into a negative mind state where complaining seems to be the only thing you can do. We look at everything wishing it could be different or better and therefore neglecting anything positive in our lives. But that what you focus on grows so if you’re only complaining about everything, guess what? You’ll end up with more to complain about. Break the cycle and force yourself to speak words of gratitude and focus on the positive. It will be hard at first but practice makes improvement and it’s essential if you want to generate more positive life experiences.
5. Gratitude Meditation
Meditating helps me be in the present moment without judgement. I don’t wish for things to be different as I am me, right here right now. And gratitude is also this: being in the present moment experiencing whatever is happening without judgement. Not wishing for things to be different but appreciating the beauty of life and feeling grateful to be alive, well and surrounded by people who love you. There are many gratitude mediation forms that will help you open your heart chakra, the home of gratitude and love. Try mantra’s, binaural beats or the Ho’oponopono meditation. Find one that resonates with you and make you radiate pure love.
What makes you feel more grateful?
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