How often do we hold on to something without knowing? Such as a behavioral pattern that doesn’t serve us, a trauma, grudge, the wrong person, fear or hate. Holding on when it comes to perseverance and achieving a goal is an admirable quality but when it’s something that hurts us, it has no use at all. First step to letting go is acknowledging the situation and being honest with ourselves.
“You cannot change what you don’t acknowledge” is one of Dr Phil popular statements and which certainly rings true when a situation is not right for us. When you acknowledge what is bothering you, look at it objectively, without judgement so that there’s no emotional attachment present. See it as something that you can improve/change without labeling it as a problem. When you talk about a problem that automatically creates stress and a sense of helplessness which is what we don’t want. Look at it from an empowering level, you are the one in control of the situation and not vice versa!
Say the truth! Even if it’s just for yourself, dare to say what bothers you and be real about it. Often times we lie to ourselves saying it’s ok or making things look less worse than how we really feel about them. If you’re brave and dare to speak your truth to others know that not everybody will like it. Some might be offended, others will criticize you and so on.
When Martha Beck was on Oprah I had so many A-HA moments because who would think something so simple as speaking the truth would impact people in such a way. The most important thing is that you will feel good about yourself which is what really counts in the end.
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